The most important thing is that you must be chill-axed. Put on your favourite JAZZ, take a nice hot bath, after which you should continue to relax yourself by dancing around to the music. Remember that the muscles around your rosebud) will not allow things to pass through easily unless you relax and take it slow. Self Anal Meoh stimulation is about pleasure. This area is full of nerve endings, so if the pleasuring is not done sensually it can be quite painful. When something is inserted into your arse, the muscles go into spasm, as it’s not used to this intrusion. So once you have inserted something, slowly, and sensually. You need to wait and relax for the muscles inside your arse to relax and get ready for some pleasuring. When I am advising clients about using the pantra, for example, I suggest that they insert it for twenty minutes before pleasuring themselves. Many have experienced something being shoved up them and the horrific pain that that involves. So your mind automatically thinks of pain when that area is touched. You need to re-educate your own mind. So start at the beginning gently stroking the entrance, your a-rosebud. Use plenty of lubricant and make your hole’s opening lovely and wet. Or the next time your lying in a bath gently play with the opening. talk to yourself tell yourself how good it feels as you pleasure yourself. When your having a wank always remember your “other sex organ”and become more familiar with it. Breathe, big deep breathes as you play with your lovely hole opening. And remember the golden rule, Stop if any discomfort occurs. There are two muscle rings called sphincters surrounding the arse opening. They function independently. Insert a well lubricated finger about one half-inch into your rosebud and press your fingertip against the side, you can clearly feel the two sphincter muscles. They are very close to each other. The external sphincters is controlled by the central nervous system – just like the muscles of the arms. It’s easy to tense and relax this sphincter whenever you want. The internal sphincter is quite different. This muscle is controlled by the involuntary or autonomic part of the nervous system, which governs such functions as heartbeat.