What makes my workshops unique is that there are no long lectures as I believe that tantric learning is more effective when bypassing your conscious mind. The only thing you have to do is breathe, everything else is optional. Don’t worry if there is something you don’t understand, as I will explain is clearly on the day. Feels free to leave comments or questions below. To attend the class click here.
The Undressing Ritual
The undressing ritual is a great way to begin your tantric massage ritual. Here you have your partner close his eyes as you encourage him to slow down his breathe and you give him some really gentle touch from head to toe, as you sensually undress him.
An Introduction to Your Chakra System
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The Lingam also has it’s own chakra system. Gently tap or vibrate at a point to represent each chakra.
Some Ideas 4 Your Massage
Plan your massage in advance. Write down some techniques you are going to use, and how you are going to alternate between each. Close your eyes, but one hand on your genitals and one hand on your heart and visualize your ritual. After your meditation prepare something to eat and drink during or after the ritual. Prepare the space where the massage will take place. Make sure it’s warm. Pour some pure coconut oil in a plastic bottle and heat in a bowl of hot water. Remember to always check the temperature of the oil on the back of your hand before you pour it directly onto the man. Turn on some sensual music louder than you normally would. Lay a sheet for the man to lie on and scatter it with rose petals. You may like to burn some incense to add to the ambience. When you are ready to begin the massage lie the man down on his back with his legs spread apart as wide as is comfortable. Hold is hands and ask him if there is any part of his body he doesn’t want included in the massage. Explain to him that he can ask for anything he wants during the massage and that he doesn’t have to be quiet and still. Encourage him to move and moan as he receives the massage. I also think it’s important that you let him know if you would like to be touched , or not, as you give the tantric massage ritual.
The purpose of this ritual is to take him and you on a journey. Forget about everything and just connect to his penis. You should encourage him to breathe deeply through out the ritual, huge big deep breathe right down into his tummy, as you breathe in unison with him. Put one hand on his tummy to feel him breathe as you encourage him to accept pleasure, surrender, and allow stillness and patience. Now pour a good dollop of massage oil onto his lingam and balls. Rub your hands to-gether and make sure they are lovely and warm. Begin the ritual by gently massaging his legs as wide apart as is comfortable for him. Continue to breathe with him big deep breaths in through your nose, bring the breath like an energy deep into your body, hold it in for a while, and slowly exhale. Cover him with a sheet. Begin to gently massage his head as you whisper your most sexual desires and fantasies to him. Gradually work up and down his body touching him through the sheet. After about 10 minutes sexily remove the sheet. Rub your hands furiously together until they are hot. Now, touch him with the very tips of your fingers very very slowly. Arouse yourself and your partner. This will help you to build up a great amount of sexual magical energy and deep erotic sensation to your touch. Whisper to him how much you love his penis. As you slowly start to remember the massage techniques you meditated about earlier. Pay attention to how he reacts to your touch. Encourage him to make some noise, and breathe deeply.
Then very slowly bring the finger tips of one hand into his perineum area (between his arsehole and balls). Gently massage the area with deep circular motions, 81 time clockwise, and then 81 times anti-clockwise. Use your other hand to make exactly the same motions on his head (crown). Then very slowly and gradually bring both hands down towards his balls. Cup your fingers under the right testicle with your right hand and the left testicle under your left hand. Apply 81 circular motions with your thumbs on the upper side of the testicles first in one direction (clockwise) then reversed (anti clockwise). You can then continue applying 81 circular motions with your fingers to the underside of the testicles. Very lightly tap his balls with your three middle fingers. Pay attention to the music you are playing in the background. Tap those lovely balls to the rhythm. Hold the balls from the base with your thumb and index finger and gently pull them forward slightly and hold and relax, you will notice that his pelvic muscles will involuntary pull them back, as this happens pull them gently forward again. You could repeat this for several minutes. Gradually bring one hand onto his lingam and gently hold it. Gently pump it 81 times; the purpose of this is to pump energy into the head of the lingam. Use the tips of your fingers of your other hand to gently massage the area between his eyebrows (third eye). You’re now ready to take the ritual to another level. It’s time for you to relax and be artistic. Everyman’s lingam is different, so there is no infinite guide from here. Your purpose is to gently massage every tiny mm of the man’s lingam in equal proportions. If you feel the man is coming close to ejaculation move back to massaging his perineum area.
Then as your slightly vibrate your fingers move along to the base of his penis, without actually touching it. Slowly creep along to his belly –button. Ring a finger around 81 times to the right and then, 81 times to the left. The next is the heart region, find a point between his nipples., place your hands flat and vibrate. Listen to the music, and use it as a guide. Continue to a pint just below the base of his throat, with one hand on top of the other increase the rate of your vibrations. Now rub your hands simultaneously up and down both sides of his body. Begin with very slow slow gentle movements, gradually building up to really intense rubbing, as if you were trying to warm him up. Gradually move your hands up to his ears and massage them with small circular motions at the beginning finishing with your hands covering each ear and press tightly for about 1 minute. Then use your fingertips of both hands to discover all the bones of his scull. Gently tap in strong circular motions. Bring the energy down his body, first towards his legs and then to his arms. At every opportunity come really closer to touching his penis. Become aware of his strong attentive masculine energy, guiding you to the best penis massage of your life. Anoint him with lots of warm oil. Gradually move around his body from head to toe, regularly coming teasingly close to his fattening penis. After about 10 or 15 minutes slowly move down and touch his penis very very gently.
The most important advice I can give to any-one who wants to give an amazing penis massage is that the secret is in your intention. Your intention should be to celebrate the man’s beautiful penis. Spend lots of time taking the energy away from his cock, sometime allowing him into the space between semi-erect and slightly less. As soon as you find him getting a full erection, move your touch to other parts of his body. Let your goodness radiate from your hands. By all means use all the techniques it’s possible to learn, but remember that penis massage is about your intention to connect and let go, it’s a warming emotional celebration. Make it last forever. Lock him in a your happy space. Enjoy and accept every minute of his pleasure, and your own. Combine trust, trith, respect, fragility, gentleness, softness, and a little firmness like they are a special, magickal incantation. I believe that every ma you will celebrate with this penis massage will be able to teach you something.
Guidelines for Men attending
We HAVE creating a very special space where every man is absolutely accepted for who he is. In this sacred space we don’t judge anyone or say or do anything that would make anyone feel in anyway uncomfortable.
– YOU ALWAYS GET TO CHOOSE WHO TOUCHES YOU. Touching anyone without permission is not only extremely bad manners, it is also illegal.
– Everything that happens in a group is absolutely confidential to that group. You’re welcome to tell others about the event but you should not discuss anything about a particular person who attended.
– Many of our celebration workshops include lingam massage, but there is absolutely clear understanding not to engage in sexual acts.
– It is absolutely fine to have an erection, and it is absolutely fine not to have.
– Please arrive with your energy intact: do not attend under the influence of any drugs, including alcohol.
The reason this agreement is made is so that men can bi-pass the ordinary outline or script that is often programmed into us and so that you can leave with the same sexual health that you arrived with.
Recommended Further reading
Everything Is and Isn’t Tantrick Bi/ Mr Cox https://www.malemassages.co.uk/here-and-now-about-tantric-practice/
107 men describe how they like to have their lingam massaged https://www.malemassages.co.uk/81-men-describe-how-they-like-to-have-their-lingam-massaged/
Is Complete and Repeated Male Genital Massage A Cure For Male Depression? https://www.malemassages.co.uk/is-complete-and-repeated-male-genital-massage-a-cure-for-male-depression/
Recommended Further External Studies.
The Tantra Diploma Course will take you up to 150 hours to complete working from home, and cost about £150. There is no time limit for completing this course. To the best of my knowledge, it is the only accredited Diploma certificate that is available in Tantra. Ask at the workshop for details.
Certification in somatic sex education with my good mate Kian de la Cour, Katie Sarra & Joseph Kramer presented by the Sea School of Embodiment in collaboration with the Institute of Somatic Sexology. More info click here